Foster Child Adoption Forums

February 22, 2012, 1:27 pm

Oh man. I've been there. There's a saying for this..."No good deed goes unpunished". With coaching from my husband, I am no longer a "people pleaser". Life is SO much better. As far as bioGrandma goes, I'd just sweep the comment from the SW she is flipping out about under...

February 22, 2012, 1:04 pm

I think this is one of the most frustrating things about the foster care system. Why, when they know that the children are going to end up right back in foster care, do they send them home??? We did not get our FD back, she went to grandma instead but when SW told us she would be going back to...

February 22, 2012, 12:55 pm

Lifechanges I didn't read your original post closely. Sorry I didn't realize this is your nephew. As a foster parent you wouldn't be able to claim him as a qualifying dependent because the date of official placement would be the deciding factor on the "6 month rule", but you may be able...

February 22, 2012, 12:55 pm

Fruitoftheheart, we recently began looking into different agencies. There aren't any located where we live, but from what I can tell several agencies still work with families in different areas(???). I think that an agency would be a better fit for our family ... at least from what I can tell by...

February 22, 2012, 12:53 pm

You have to be very careful when it comes to children talking about abuse. We were accused of 'putting words' in my FC mouths because we let them talk about it. We never asked leading questions, always documented etc. It was horrible. Just do your best to let them know you are listening and it...

February 22, 2012, 12:44 pm

i am sorry you are having sucha rought time and that the kiddo does not have the greatest social worker. With my last case the kids CW never contacted me and the kids were moved 4 times in 3 months! I remember being sooooo incredibly frustrated for everyone involved. I thought i got myself into a...

February 22, 2012, 12:29 pm

Quote: Originally Posted by NotDoneYet The way I see it, its either respite or its not. If OP normally gets paid for respite (we do here) than I don't see why she wouldn't still get a stipend if she is still technically his FM. I would agree. If you are not sure,...

February 22, 2012, 11:39 am

Thanks for the replies!! It's just sort of an informal poll...our case goal became adoption and they have filed the petition to TPR...but, the prelim hearing isn't till end of next month(man that makes it sound close!LOL!)...everything we are hearing says that the typical schedule is 60 days...so,...

February 22, 2012, 11:03 am

I do think certain workers take different types of abuse differently, whereas others don't. The filthy house thing especially annoys me as I've had two placements with children who had been living in homes that had been deemed not fit for human habitation when they were removed. The children are...

February 22, 2012, 10:51 am

good for mom! good for Curly! good for you! where there is life, there is hope. there is always hope!

February 22, 2012, 9:43 am

my 5 and a half year old FS was diagnosed with PDD last week. I am doing a ton of research on the matter and am contacting some local autism resources. I knew that something was off on him. he is socially and communicatively ( is that even a word?? LOL) very behind, and he seems lost in his...

February 22, 2012, 8:55 am

Quote: Originally Posted by ilovekids12 I just found out yesterday that the sibling group I fell in love with have been "matched"...I am heartbroken I know there is a chance that parents will change their minds, but who knows how many other families are...

February 22, 2012, 8:43 am

If you call the ph num they will have to put out a search for it. Been over a week. I am so sorry. Such a stresser.

February 22, 2012, 8:17 am

Awww what a fun time in your home. You sound experienced this should be a nice placement for you. Remember to take pics!

February 22, 2012, 8:17 am

Sounds like the perfect placement (for me anyway!). I hope to be joining the ranks soon...still waiting on license! Hope to have it next month and then I hope to come here and report my placements!